Are you possessive or being possessed?

Hiya!!
I didn't have any idea to blog till noon. But a friend of mine suggested to write about "possessiveness". Hey, i liked the topic. So here Iam.
So what does a dictionary define it as? "not wanting to share Sb/sth". Everybody is possessive about something or the other-even a 2 year old with its dad/mom, a 5 year old with it's toys..then as the time passes ..possessiveness on friends, on lover... so extends the list..
There are just 2 scenes:

-1-
Boy: you seem 2 spend more time with others than with me..
Girl: nope....
Boy: no !! u do...don't do that again...
Girl:Why are you acting weird? STOP trying to be possessive... It bothers me....

-2-
Girl: c'mon how can you act as if you don't care for me?
Boy: What makes you feel that way?
Girl: The other day you teased me along with others..
Boy: It doesn't mean anything..
Girl: It does..you no more care for me...

In both these cases, the underlying current is possessiveness. When someone becomes close to us, we tend to feel as if we care more for them, than themselves.That's what land us in being possessive. Actually speaking there is nothing wrong about possessiveness as long as it doesn't bother the person on whom you are possessive. But once if the person feels it intriguing, it's time to stop acting so.

A senti-friend of mine said, "Why don't people understand that being possessive means, there is love underneath?"

Another friend of mine said, "people confuse care with possessiveness. There is a subtle difference between them, since possessiveness is not a fun anymore if the person feels uncomfortable."

Everybody has different opinions..and this is mine: "It's good to be possessive, after all it shows love. In fact i love to have people who are possessive & don't lemme down in-front of someone else (with whom iam not that very close). But everybody needs some space to breathe..so, letting people to breathe freely is also a sign of love. "

So, be possessive when someone feels down, it cheers them; But allow them to be themselves, it shows them how much you love them for being themselves.

I just forgot what my other friend said, "You idiot, you have microprocessors exam, and you are blogging about who-gives-a-damn-possessiveness.."

oh God!!i forgot that...my models are going on and it's time to read...

Do comment,
catch u soon,
nandhu :)

Rite now: A lil bit busy wid study books, Thinking "Have i really hurt someone by being possessive?" ;)

Women love to speak!!!

It has been a long time since i blogged. And even now i don't know what to blog on. But wait, i think i have something in my mind...Why not about women??(the ones who are always teased by men for thinking aloud and for being indirect..) For Guys over there, i know you people go behind reason and logic, my entire post actually is based on those things...

I have heard this a hell lot of times, be it from my grandpa, my dad, my brothers or some other guys(who are lucky enough to get committed).
"Nandhu, You know what, i wonder how she keeps talking all through the day. "(by the way she refers to any women..my granny, mom, nieces....) I never knew how to respond to those lines, because am no different. I spend a whole day with my friends, return home, then again i start to message or call them. The truth is, these things sound weird only for guys.


WOMEN LOVE TO TALK !!
If you think there are women who are silent and don't speak much, then probably you aren't that close to her. Every women loves to talk!! Men see the telephone as a communication tool for relaying facts and information, but a women sees it as a means of bonding. Usually mothers talk to, and look at, baby girls more often than baby boys. Since a girl's brain is better organised to send and receive speech, parents talk to her more. Consequently, mothers who try to talk their sons are usually disappointed to receive only short grunts. (am not actually complaining anyone...it's the general truth)

SO WHY WOMEN NEED TO TALK?
Men's brain are compartmentalised and at the end of the day can file the problems away. But the only way women get rid of their problems is by talking about them. So her objective is to discharge the problems, not to find conclusions.
Generally, women sees her thinking ALOUD as friendly, sharing. But men perceive them as complaints and thinks that they need to fix those problems.(100% wrong!!)

GUYS-THE SILENT TALKERS
If men complain women about their LOUD thoughts, women start complaining that the guys turn silent when they have to speak.(i have actually did it a few times when it comes to
my bro ;) )

And now i know the reason, in case of problems, guys TALK TO THEMSELVES-SILENTLY.
When he says, "can you leave it to me?", he means it. But the worst part is, only another man can understand what a silent talking is.

May be that's why guys prefer to have a silent drink and women love to chit-chat even while watching a movie...

Want more proof?? Just go to a greeting card section, pick out one you like. Chances are you pick a card with more words and less space for you to write, if you are a guy and vice-versa.

And now am wondering, if i have been speaking a lot..(never mind, WOMEN LOVE TO TALK !!)
So its simple, guys don't complain if a girl speaks a lot and you feel boring..just tell her in polite way.

And for girls over there, just because you love to talk, you can't keep talking all the time..when guys tell / shows dis-interest, try to stop or you might end up in the crying game(which most of the men can't handle).

So what am I doing here, a counselling section thru' my blog ?? Err..this is what a girl actually does, type and then think.

Anyways, do comment.

catch you soon,
nandhu :)

Right now: am reading "3 mistakes of my life" , learning viking language scripts, searching a good viking pattern for my new finger ring